I remember building my very first online eCommerce store back in the 1990’s. Knowing NOTHING about the online space, I didn’t even know how to make a link clickable. Many people look at where I’m at today and think there’s no way I’ve ever struggled like they are. The truth is, I know it so well, it is why I’m able to read people when they’re in my coaching program and sometimes, can even predict if they’ll actually succeed.

The feelings are still very familiar, and the war is still very fresh in my mind. Feeling completely overwhelmed by HTML and XTML and Java and Flash and Clickable links and MajorDomo (that was the email program we used in the 90’s) and the list goes on. But along with the feelings of confusion were other feelings. An inner drive to not quit. An obsession to find answers when people said there weren’t any. A personality that was driven to complete what I started. An innate wiring to FIGHT.

So I’d research, call GoDaddy, read through diagrams and instructions….we did NOT have video like we do now! YouTube wasn’t even created yet! When I say that small business owners have it easier now, it’s no joke. Things are SO MUCH easier now. But the battle between moving ahead and staying stuck still exists. The decision between giving into the judgements and criticism of well meaning people and the innate NEED to succeed is still the same.

Ignoring the voices around me, even if these were people who loved me, I’d press through. There was no way I was going to bed without finding an answer. There was no way I’d believe I couldn’t do it. Knowing there were a lot of things I didn’t know about didn’t cloud the reality that I wouldn’t give up, even if it cost me my sleep, had hurt feelings and alienation from others! I was not going to quit!

Not quitting doesn’t mean you sit on your butt, pray and wait for an answer. It means you pray and get to work and go find the answer! 

The reason so many people don’t make it in a small business in 2015 is ……..

Warning…. if you tend to get your feelings hurt, don’t like when people tell the truth, like things served on a silver platter and can’t handle any pressure in your life.. just hit delete. Please. But if you want to know why some people succeed and others don’t? Keep reading….

The reason they don’t succeed is they simply refuse to humble themselves, get the help they need, devote the time the required and get rid of lesser things in their life that are holding them back. They won’t downsize their current living so they can grow a business. They won’t ignore people’s opinions. They refuse to make a decision and use the excuse that they are missing their ‘big idea’ in their project, when they know deep inside of their heart that the truth is, they’ve sat there starring at Facebook and their computer for 3 hours and aren’t really doing anything to grow their business.

They refuse to write 50 ads, and test things out, and get discouraged after their third try. SIGH. They want things to happen now, live in jealousy when others succeed, resent the things that aren’t working out for them and search for reasons why they can’t succeed more than answers to why they can!

I know this can come off hard and make me sound like a female dog without compassion, but the truth is this: It’s not easy or everyone would be doing it. It doesn’t happen overnight or everyone would be doing it. There’s nothing holding us back other than our own lack of self-image, confidence and determination or everyone would be doing it!

I had very little money, sold everything I could to get things started and was willing to take a ridiculous risk AND take responsibility for my risk. You can’t have it any other way. You have to take responsibility. I believed God when He said that He can give me supernatural wisdom so I asked Him for everything and followed the hunches, paid attention to the visions, and wrote down every single idea, dream and insight. Eventually they started all connecting like a newspaper clipping from heaven! I also refused to quit.

Having been gang raped, robbed, ridiculed, tormented and other unimaginable sufferings gave me an innate fight that was not going to quit. The very same thing that tore me to shreds also propelled me to not give up. The reason some people don’t succeed is they’ve given up their fight, believed the ill report of the enemy and have refused to try a million times before things happen. They give up on try number 10.

Life was never easy for me.

My business also never looked super professional. Shoot…. look at the photo below! It’s the website I had when I made my first $30,000 online! In today’s world it looks horrible. In the 90’s it was pretty close to the same. But there was something about me that when people met me they would FEEL through the computer, email and my website, that I was here to serve them and I was not going to give up!

One of the reasons the person sitting next to you will succeed in my Inner Circle Coaching Program and you won’t is that they aren’t telling everyone they HAVE to succeed and they HAVE to make money to get their family out of debt. They won’t live in desperation. While you’re talking about all the things you HAVE to do……. they are busy studying, praying, working their buttocks off, studying again, doing the work, erasing what they did, putting it on social media EVEN when it’s not perfect  (OUCH I just crawled into some people’s comfort zone!) and doing it again and again and again. They have typos and errors and mistakes, and they’re making money while YOU are still trying to be perfect and still don’t have your header done and you’re still talking about why you HAVE do this. Again, please know, I’m not trying to be mean, rude or sarcastic, but people don’t pay me to tell them lies, make them popular or to like them. They pay me to get RESULTS. Some will get results and others will not.

I remember what it’s like to pray for GOD for just one sale per day and then to SPEAK to my mountain standing in front of me and telling it to go back to hell where it came from, and doing more ads, more articles, more newsletters and praying to God for 2 sales per day. Quitting was never in my DNA. It still isn’t. But my life was never easy, I didn’t have a pretty website and I was never the popular girl in the crowd. But I had this thing inside of me, CONVICTION. People felt it. They heard it. And they were attracted to it. I had illnesses, things I had to heal from and more! Read my last article on this blog… so you can’t use that as an excuse either. I had little kids, a husband who didn’t have a clue what I was doing and sometimes thought I was crazy. So you can’t use that as an excuse, either. 🙂

When people tell me the biggest thing holding their business back is a big technological fiasco and people who constantly let them down that they hire who messed up their website, I want to yell back at them, “Just hire someone new! So what, you met some nasty people, who didn’t do their job. I have too! SO WHAT….. get another person and another and another until you find the right fit.” A technological fiasco never holds anyone back ….it’s the person who is ready to quit and they say the reason they’re quitting is their technological nightmare and their website and so on……. that’s why they fail. I want to ask them WHY they didn’t get a new website last month and why they are still taking about the nightmare rather than finding someone to fix it.

I never waited around for someone else to fix the things that were broken. I never waited around for the right people. I’ve fired lazy people, those who lied, the ones who fraudulently made it look like they were doing 40 hours of work but we BOTH knew they were only doing 10 hours and I didn’t wait for someone else to fix the problem for me. I got it done. Did whatever it took. Forgave a lot of people, lost money and made money and never quit. EVEN when my challenges were bigger than me.

Do you feel it?

The fire?

The drive to succeed no matter what?

That’s called conviction and you had better get some NOW. If you do have this conviction I recommend you spend your next $47 and get into my Inner Circle Mastermind. Link is at the top of my website. Do whatever it takes to succeed. Relocate, downsize, get help, fire those who are lazy, do whatever it takes. Don’t talk about it, do it.

Some people will succeed and some people won’t. It’s a matter of WILL more than anything else. WILL you or won’t you. 

It’s totally up to you.

With love,

Sandi Krakowski